5 Truths in Life — Why You Should Stop Caring What Others Think
You have nothing to prove.
When you think about this sentence “You have nothing to prove”, you’ll realize how deep it is and how true it is…
I want you to stop reading the rest for now and read that sentence again and really sit with the feeling you have. “You have nothing to prove.”
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When I first read that sentence, I couldn’t put much meaning into it. But when I really sat down with it and sank it inside of me, I had an awakening. It is so true that I, you, we, nobody in this world have to prove anything to anyone. Right or right?
But what we do in life is completely the opposite, is that right too? :) Let’s face it. You, me.. We do try to prove ourselves to people around us. You try to prove yourself at your job that you are successful, you are trying to show your parents that you got everything right in your life, your parents try to show you that they know what’s best for you… I believe you can add more here.
At the end of the day, we found ourselves being tired, overwhelmed, and kind of lost. Because we are not actually living our life. We are living our life based on what others might think about us! We try to prove ourselves to everyone around us where we already are enough and have no desire to prove.
After working with people from various countries and cultures, I have learned that humans’ behaviors are very much alike. I also did research on how much other humans think of us and most importantly I found out how life really unfolds…
Here are the 5 truths in life:
- Others don’t care as much as you think.
“As humans, we are inherently hyper-focused on ourselves. We’re worried that everyone’s judging our bad hair day, that lingering mustard stain, or the dust and cat hair that somehow made its way onto the computer screen right before a presentation. In reality, nobody notices the extra frizz in your hair, your coworkers are oblivious to your condiment mishap, and those dust particles are par for the course. Even if people did notice, they wouldn’t really care because, well, they’re likely too busy worrying about their own issues.” This is a short part from the headspace article. You can read more here.
- It’s impossible to please everybody (including your family!).
Think about it. If you try to please even one person around you, you’ll end up living their standards and desires not yours! You’ll lose your soul just to please people around you. It’s just not worth it. Live your life based on your own desires.
- Nobody knows what’s best for you (but you!).
I cannot say much here because the sentence explains it a lot. Everybody is having a human experience in this world and not only do people know what’s best for you, but also they don’t know what’s best for them. Nobody really knows what’s best in life. They try and experience each and every single day. And so do you. You only know what’s best for you based on how you feel in that moment and go with it.
- Life is too short.
Literally, this is it. Life is too short to worry about what others think about you. Life is too short to delay stuff that you really want to do. Life is too short to overthink before you make a decision. Life is too short my friend so go live your life!
- It’s your life not others.
At the end of the day whatever happens, this is your life. You own it with the good and bad.
So what now? After reading these truths, you are probably asking yourself or to me. What now, Burcu :D?
It will be a miracle if you immediately start living your life based on these five truths. But you can slowly start applying them into your life. Again, at the end of the day, this is your freaking life and there is nothing to do with what others think, how you look in their eyes, or how much your parents are proud of you… None of them matters, but YOU and your feelings matter.
You have nothing to prove in this life, only live the life in a way you want to. Believe in yourself and your dreams. Never stop chasing the life you believe you deserve. Never let anyone put you down because of x,y,z..
You matter.
