C H O O S E your words wisely when you speak, and it will change your life!

One of my favorite books “The Four Agreements” talks about how we create stories in our lives by using language. In this blog, I want to show you how you can create a better life using your own words. It only costs you making some small changes in your language, but it will make a huge difference in your life

The first agreement in the book is “Be Impeccable with Your Word”. What does that mean?

According to the book, and I completely believe this “Humans are born with the power of creation, and we are constantly creating stories with the words we learned. We were programmed to deliver a message, and the message is our life.” So, what we do is speaking every day, but we never consider the power of word choice. However, if we are aware of it and are careful of how we talk it will change our entire lives into JOYYful life!

I studied Neuro-Linguistic Programming(NLP), which teaches you how the brain works and how you can use your language to program your mind. After, I became super passionate about changing my life and others! When I experienced the power of words that we use every single moment in our lives, I was blown away by thinking if I made a tiny change in my language I can change my entire life! I can literally create what I want and live my dreams, attract amazing people in my life, be healthier, stronger, more successful, and more…

Here is an example from my personal life showing how the power of words has the ability to make or break you.

I used to try rope climbing at the gym for over 3 months. One day, again I was trying to climb while listening to my inner voice “You can’t do it.” And, one of my friends came and told me “Are you going to climb?” and I said, “I’m trying, but…” Then, she told me “Just do it.” After a while, I decided to try again and once I was climbing, my inner voice came back and freaked me out. However, also my friends’ voice came louder which said “You got it, you already know, one more…” I realized that my own thoughts were holding me back. So, I ignored my inner voice and kept climbing but listening to the positive words coming from my friends. I climbed! And, the shift of language made the difference.

I know, it is hard to believe and you might say “How do my words, or sentences affect my life? This is crazy!” Yes, I agree with you only on the second part, though

It is crazy!

Imagine, you have a goal to pass an important exam. When we have a conversation with you, you are telling me this: “I’m trying to study for this exam, and I have been trying to pass…etc.” I’m sorry my friend but you’ll never pass that exam if you keep speaking like that. What is wrong with this language? Please go back and read the sentence again and then read the following one.

A Positive example of the same conversation: “I’m working on passing this exam, and I have been studying and doing my best to pass…etc.”

Now, I want you to read both of them again and really feel each word inside you. How do you feel in each one? Which one makes you feel disappointed and which one motivated? Which word do you think made the sentence weak? -TRYING! The word of freaking “TRY”! Most of my friends know that I go crazy when people talk to me by using “try” in the sentence, I can’t help myself but correct them immediately! Because it is such a powerful word in a negative way. I can hear some of you saying “What is wrong with “try”, what happens exactly if we keep using it, does it really matter?” According to Yoda

YES! and YES!

Let me explain in my own words. I want you to see yourself trying to drink a cup of coffee super simple thing to do but if you’re trying to do, you’re not actually doing it! You either imagining yourself succeeding, or imagining yourself attempting it. And, both scenarios are not the truth, they are not real. YOU are real and YOU are here now by having a choice to create your own reality.

You can create the reality by first imagining your success instead of your attempt and potential failure. You must first believe in your success and use language that reflects confidence. By doing so you lessen negative thoughts, worry, and self-sabotage and only increase your chances of creating the life you desire. You have to be your own best cheerleader because your voice, the voice you speak and the voice in your head is the loudest and most constant.

Let me know how it goes! If you need to get deeper on your daily word choices and create a happier life, email me from here!