Burcu Onaranel Erten
5 min readSep 20, 2019

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Get Your Life Together

No matter where you are at in your life, no matter what happened to you; we all have that sense of things are falling apart so what matters now is that you Get Your Life Together! That’s to say if you want to achieve all those dreams you have.

Having the life you dream takes some sort of time, effort and commitment. Even though you work hard and do everything right to get what you want, you will never know when the storm comes or where it comes from… So, let’s get you in a mindset where you can not only get your life together but also keep it together ;)

REMEMBER ->“Sometimes we need to take 10 steps back to take 20 steps forward. The rainstorms may feel reckless but they are needed to clear out the junk and cleanse.”

There were several times in my life where I was a setback in order to achieve my goals, and here is the recent one for you to show how it is always possible to get back to life!

Over 3 years ago, my goal was to have my own business, have financial stability, be a motivational speaker, live in a peaceful place in the U.S., have friends like family and most importantly be healthier and stronger.

Only 3 months ago, I thought I got my life together. I had everything that I have listed above in my life. I have my business, living in California, several clients, I am a motivational speaker, have amazing friends, I am healthier and stronger! I was planning to leave to Turkey for a couple months for vacation and business purpose. As I said at the beginning, you need to be ready for the storms and you never know when it comes to your life. Since the moment I landed to Turkey, my “life”, the one I thought was together, was started to shift. First I started having some health issues because of the weather in Turkey. Some of my clients stop working with me while I was in Turkey. My home in the U.S. is going through changes and I had to work out those changes all the way from Turkey. Ok, let’s fast forward to today.

I came to California about two weeks ago. First of all, it was not easy to come back at all because of all the problems I have had to deal with and I was literally walking into what felt like a fire. Moreover, I was more emotional because I was feeling attached to my country and my family again since I had just spent two months with them. But I didn’t have time to feel my emotions because I was almost going to miss my flight! For the first time in my life, I have had this experience where I did everything right to catch my flight but everything went wrong and I barely made it to my seat with just 5 min. before the departure!

I flew safely but, since I got in California (funny enough, it is like the same scenario as my landing to Turkey), I started having more stressful surprises like the passport control wasn’t as smooth as it had been in the past. There were more steps to be in cleared than ever before. When I arrived at my home, I was disappointed by more surprises.

The next day, when I went to pick my car, I was presented with more issues regarding my car. So, I had to start somewhere to fix everything that happened when I left the country, right? :D I had to get my life together!

Here is how I have gotten my life together in two weeks since I’ve gotten home and you can do it too:

  • Accept
  • Believe
  • Plan
  • Take Action
  • Love

* Accept

Accept what is…

The very first step is to accept whatever happens in your life. It is what it is and when you accept, everything starts to flow and get together.

From my experience, when I had all those issues and could not do anything until I get to California, I had literally no choice rather than accepting. I accepted that it is ok to have challenges in business, it is ok for the home life change and all cars have issues. It is OK for things to happen. I had miracles happen before and they can happen again!

* Believe

You need to believe that the best is coming for you! The Universe has prepared the best for you and it is happening already! When you trust and believe, your energy shifts in a way where you attract more of your desires. At the beginning it may not feel like it is coming, but when you believe and trust you will become a magnet of all the great things that are ready for you.

What did I do?

After I accept whatever it was, I meditated and prayed. I said “I believe something bigger is coming on my way, and I appreciate YOU, The Universe, by removing all those obstacles that are not serving my dreams anymore.

* Plan

Nobody will do it for you, so you have to get your mind and plan your way. Then, “Get Your Life Together”

How?

Just think about one step at a time. You don’t have to know all the steps at the beginning but you do have to know what would be the first few steps. I want you to list the things you can do in order to achieve your goal. Then, pick the one that can be done tomorrow!

Coming back to my story:

I listed everything that had happened and put some stars next to the ones that are urgent to deal with. Then, just throw them on my calendar and ask some help from my friends J

I have to mention here, that the best part of my life is to always have amazing friends, I call them angels, with me. And this is also WHY you need to BELIEVE and TRUST, whatever happens, you’ll get through it ❤

* Take Action

It is time to get on the stage! You accepted, believed, planned and now let’s see some of your muscles in order to make that happen!

This step requires a really good time-management but most importantly health strength! If you are not healthy and strong, you can’t be there for your life. So, eat good, exercise and feed your soul every single day! It is going to help you to stay motivated and effective ;)

Me again?

I jumped into my working out a schedule, started eating healthier and scheduled coffee times with my friends ❤ Every day, I fixed one by one of my issues!

* Love

Ok. Unfortunately, I am not talking about love with a partner here :D

Here we go:

Love what is…

When you love your journey, your life, it gives you miracles. Whatever you put, you take out of it.

You might be wondering how I still loved my life after all this? I loved the experience, I loved the way who I am and truly loved trusting the Universe. I am not telling you all the things are easy to do, but I am telling you (actually showing you as a live example) that miracles can be YOUR REALITY!

LOVE your JOurneYY!

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Burcu Onaranel Erten

YouTube @joyyburcu | On a mission to Create JOY! | Founder of Joyy! LLC | International Speaker | Host of The Coffee o'clock Podcast | Inspirational Life Coach