The Secret of Happiness

Are you happy?

This isn’t the question we hear often in our day to day life, right? I can see all of your faces. You kind of doubted for a second to feel the happiness you have or not right now.

Did you know that the most searched word on Google is joy?

It means, we all seek joy in life… We all want to be happy.

We want it but we don’t know what it actually means. Because we were not raised to be happy in life. We are raised to get the best job, be the best,.. Our society never taught us that the most important thing in life is “to be happy.”

Yes?

I have been curious about researching joy and happiness for about 10 years.

I am 32 now and recently, I think I have found what real joy and happiness means.

Before I tell you what it is and what it isn’t, let me tell you what I had done until I learned what happiness means in life.

I did follow those society rules about my career. In my twenties, I worked so hard and I graduated from University a school term earlier than my peers. I got a job in an international company before I even graduated. I never had a boyfriend until age 25. I was so busy focusing on my career. I had to get the best job and be the best, right?

In 2019, I have achieved many of my career goals. I created my business and was getting better at what I do every single day. But something was missing in my life. I wasn’t happy. Yes I was happy that I had a good career but I wasn’t happy in my personal life. I kept chasing more in my career until I got to a point where I was like, I don’t want more anymore. I want love in my life. I want to have my own family. So in 2021, I got deeper on this topic and slowed down in my career. I was only doing what’s in front of me and not chasing more clients or anything more of what I already had. In September, 2021, I met the love of my life and I slowed even more in my professional life because I was dividing my time more to build a relationship. In 6 months of our relationship, I felt so anxious and worried about my career. Because I was never used to taking this much of a break from my career. I was still working but not as crazy as I was before. Then we got engaged in 2022 and a couple of weeks ago we got married.

These days I realized that life is not just about your career. Life is about being happy wherever you are in your life milestones.

Today I am happy, I feel joy in every cell of my body. I am also not as career chaser as I was before but I don’t make it a big deal anymore. Because it isn’t. I now know what real happiness and joy means to me.

Let’s get deeper in what happiness isn’t and what happiness is.

• Happiness cannot be found in the titles you have. Job titles: You a CEO, Business owner, specialist,.. This is not just a job title, think about all the titles you carry throughout your life; you as a mom, you as a husband..
• Happiness also doesn’t come from the city you live in. You can live in Anaheim, California where Disneyland (The happiest place in the world) is, but still be in depression!
• Happiness is not about being with someone. You can be in a relationship but still feel unworthy of love and lonely.

All these titles you have don’t matter. But, we are walking around with all these titles every single day and we are called by those titles from people around us.

This is why it is kind of a social pressure on us. Society can pressure people to prioritize long-term happiness based on achievements and societal standards.

People ask, how is your work? How is your wife?…

Nobody asks “Are you happy?”

Think about what would happen, if you hear this question more often. Wouldn’t you look at your life differently and be more conscious of what you do every single day?

• Happiness is a choice.
• Happiness is an inside job.
• Happiness is how you feel about yourself and your life.
• Happiness is what makes your heart full with joy.
• Happiness is different for everyone.

You can create your own definition for your happiness.

My point here is to create an awareness in your life that you are worthy of love and anything else besides career. If you are a career chaser like I was, think about it again. Think about how much you want that career. By the way, it doesn’t have to be the career, it can be anything you have been focusing on a lot and leaving other things out of your life.

🍀Look at your life differently today, if you have been someone who only focuses on just one thing in life and feeling not happy or full, take a step back and see what’s going to unfold.

🪽Stop for a while from that hamster wheel.

🪽Slow down on whatever you have been doing a lot.

🪽Say it out loud whatever you want in your life.

🪽Say it and be open for change.

🎉When you are open to it, it comes to you in a miraculous way.

Until the next time, stay with Joyy! 😉